Old age home at present

 Nowadays, when someone's parents become old or elderly, we put our parents in old age homes, but have we ever asked ourselves if they really want to live in old age homes. Will they be able to live in the old age home according to their needs, will they be able to see the favorite faces of their children there, will they be able to play with their beloved grandchildren there.

In today's topic about old age labor, I will discuss four issues.

  1/ Do parents want to stay away from their children in old age?

  2/ Feelings of an old father

  3/ What is the instruction of the Almighty Allah about the elderly parents?

  4/ What should we have done about them?

1/ Do parents want to stay away from their children in their old age?

In fact, no parent in the world wants to be separated from their children, if you notice one thing, you will understand that from the day you came into this world, from the day our parents started dreaming about us, this child of mine will grow up one day. We will live very peacefully with him. He will take over my work when he grows up, he will understand the meaning of this love and make us his own as we have raised him from childhood, but we don't do that, we think our parents are our own. So we imprison them in the four walls of old age, can it be the work of a sane man? Think of yourself, you have that child, but how would you feel if this child of yours leaves you and leaves you in your old age in some remote area where you do not see anyone you know? . How will you feel then,,,,,what will you think about yourself,,how helpless will you feel then,

    When you leave your parents in their old age, they have suffered just as much because of your child's 

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2/ Feelings of an old father,,,,

One day an old uncle said to me while meeting ( his age should be more than 65) Look father, you should talk to my son Atiq Chowdhury one day,,how is he behaving day by day.

  Then I said ok uncle ok I will talk to him but told him what happened.

  At that time, the voice in which the uncle told me the words came to my eyes, maybe if you had been in that interview, you would have been in the same situation.

Uncle said to me see father Atiq is saying keep me in old age home, he says I will live very well there, there will be people of my age,, there I will always be happy so keep me in old age home. Staying in an old age home would be good for me, but father, will I see my beloved grandchildren there, will I be able to play with them with chocolates, will I be able to see the face of my beloved son Atiq Chowdhury and forget the pain of losing his mother? Will I be called my dear bauma's father, the call that fulfilled my daughter's needs, but why does Atiq not want to understand my thoughts, why does he want to know these emotions in my mind, why does he not want to understand that I cannot leave mine? I can't live peacefully in my father's house or anywhere else, be it the palace.

    I want to leave this world from this little cottage of father.

Now think about how much pain we give to our parents by keeping them in the old age home. If we could hear their unspoken words, then maybe no child would have thought of keeping their parents in the old age home, because they too will have children one day. The mother would be the father, then maybe if his child did this behavior with him, he would have kept these pains inside.

3/ What is the instruction of the Almighty Allah about the elderly parents?

Allah Subhanahu Ta'ala says:

  وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا 

 Be kind to father and mother.

  وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ إِحْسَانًا

  'I have advised man to be kind to his parents.

It is said in Surah Bani Israel,

  وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا * وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا

  "Your Lord has decreed that no one should be worshiped except Him.  Will treat parents well.  If one or both of them are old among you, you shall not say to them until Uh.  Do not scold them but speak with special dignity in front of them.  Always bow before them with humility and humility.  And make this dua - O my Lord!  Have mercy on them as you have brought me up as a child.

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Abdullah Ibn Masood (RA) said, I asked the Prophet (PBUH), O Messenger of Allah!

أي العمل أحب إلى الله عز وجل ؟ قال الصلاة لوقتها قلت ثم اي؟ قال بر الوالدين ثم قلت أى؟ قال الجهاد في سبيل ال

  

 What work is most preferred by Allah? He said, praying on time. I asked again, then which? He said - Be kind to father and mother. I said, then which one? He said - Jihad in the way of Allah.

4/ What should we have done about them?

Since Allah Ta'ala has asked us to treat them well, not to cause them any trouble, we must fully fulfill our rights towards them, especially since they are the ones who made us human beings in their arms,,,, our position is the result of their labor. , so one should take care of them, not even say oops to them, even take all their burdens on one's shoulders and treat them well and stay by their side in happiness and sorrow.

And keep praying for them.

  وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا

And make this dua - O my Lord! Have mercy on them as they have brought me up as a child.

  May Allah Ta'ala grant us the grace to serve our parents and attain their satisfaction,,,,,,,,,,

Amen